How to Cultivate Intimacy with Yourself and Others (feat. Allana Pratt)

True intimacy can be hard because it requires us to be vulnerable and open. We must be willing to allow someone to see us for who we really are and trust that they will accept us.

According to my guest today, Allana Pratt, intimacy must begin with us first. We have to get comfortable in our own skin, before we can build that quality connection with another person.

Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically and attract an open-hearted, ideal relationship.

A certified coach with nearly 5 million viewers on YouTube, she is the author of six books and hosts the edgy podcast Intimate Conversations. She has been chosen as an Icon of Influence and has been featured in Huffington Post, People Magazine, and Forbes, TLC and The Jenny McCarthy Show.

During this interview, Allana dives deep into all facets of intimacy - including what real intimacy is, what gets in the way of our connections and how we can get over our fear of being vulnerable and open with another person.

Interview time stamps:

04:18 ︳How Allana went from graduating as an Ivy Leaguer to an expert on love and relationships

11:55 ︳Signs that we’re disconnected from ourselves and unwilling to look at the parts of us that get in the way of our growth

13:35 ︳How can we begin healing ourselves and become accepting of ourselves

16:15 ︳What it means if you’re constantly attracting ghosters, cheaters and unavailable partners

18:35 ︳The role that inner child issues play into our intimate connection

22:52 ︳How do we approach our intimate connection in a healthy way (after we do the inner work)

29:45 ︳The importance of having healthy standards

35:02 ︳Why Allana’s believes that doing the inner work attracts better partners for us

36:10 ︳How can we get more comfortable in our skin and be okay with being seen for who we really are

41:30 ︳The important of self-belief and community

43:15 ︳The difference between soulmates and “wholemates”